I'll kick off the debate section with this.

This question is targeted at anyone not as simple and narrow minded as to judge someone instantaneously and shun them before getting to know a person.

I just want to know, why is it many heterosexual males feel that all gay men are after them? Now this is a general question/statement. There is no fact/truth behind it but it seems this way with many men. I see it all too much to not notice that when a gay male is near a "Homophobe" the "homophobe" acts like the gay man is most definately going to hit on him or try something. Are some people THAT into themselves to think that way?

For clarification: No, i am not gay.

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Hmm I don't have the same observation as you have.. but IMO since I have some homosexual friends... they tend to be "lively" and some guys feel that, that person might be hitting on them, acting all hyper and stuff. And guys (not all) have a stubborn mind that homosexuals only think about sex and whatnot. That's what I see with the people around here.

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Maybe it's an ego thing. They'd like to think that so they think that both females and males find them attractive.

But some people just aren't comfortable with that amount of affectionate energy from a guy that is makes them uneasy. Ive got a friend who wont even let us hug him ... which we do for a laugh anyway , and by us I mean his straight friends but thats just because he doesnt like that sort of affection ... doesnt make him a homophobe.

But i suppose that can lead to homophobia

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Although this doesn't present an answer to your question, I'd like to support a certain aspect of your post.

I believe that its fine to hang with homosexuals. On a personal note, My gay friend helps me out with girls alot. He'd give me advice, offer to talk to my girlfriend (supporting my side of course), and because I suck at fashion, he'd help pick out some sensible -though sometimes metro-ish - clothes when I need them.

I know it seems like the friendship is superficial, there are other times when I'd help him to act "straight" in front of others; because in actuality, he hates being labeled as gay straight off the bat and have everyone criticize him. Yes, gays have emotions too - they're human beings.. doesn't mean that they can't feel - just means that they feel even MORE because the world puts them down so much (haha even I do at times also)

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Gays have emotions? Haha jk but yeah many straight guys just feel insecure around gay guys because:
one, they aren't comfortable with their own sexuality,
two, they just don't think being gay is right,
or three, they are just afraid of them, which is what homophobe actually means.
I'm still in high school so I only have one or two gay friends, and I could see how some guys would feel uncomfortable around them. They are very openly gay and very... uh... flirtatious...

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I wish gay guys were coming on to me, then i'd know i would appeal to atleast one gender of the human race [no i'm not gay, just girl problems -- high school time, whaddya expect].

Anyways, I think you're right un1que. They probably are THAT into THEMSELVES. Conceited people are always annoying to me.

Also, maybe they are making fun of the true thing they desire so they can try and hide it. Who knows~

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I like to see all your opinions and not some people just completely bashing on gays. Thank you all for posting and i'd like to see more thoughts from the rest of the forums and such.

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lol this thread is begging to be flamed... ne way
well i think that some guys feel that gay people do hit on them, i havent been hit on before, and it would be really awkward if you are straight... but you have to learn to deal with it if it happens...

He he he, not being sexist, but all guys responding so far and no gay bashing. I love this forum!! ^_^ *hearts*

I have many gay friends, they are awesome and super, just like my straight friends. Having a gay bestfriend when you are female would be awesome. Not that I know, but I could imagine. Scoping guys and clothes shopping! XDD

But to the point, this psychology seems to run more predominantly in the male gender. Some girls might be uncomfortable with a lesbian, but it's more when the lesbian is hitting on her and she's straight. And most lesbians tend to be more cautious and less openly flamboyant then their male counterparts.

But, yeah, I think it's the male feeling threatened by the gay man being too flamboyant. They may feel embarassed for their own masculinity, or embarassed for the male gender because of the actions of the gay man.

But kudos to all you guys for being open minded!!

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I will agree. I have gay and lesben friends and it dont bother me. I understand a guy getting creeped out but a hyper guy and a girl with a manish girl but there isn't much of a problem with me and my friends, a bunch of straights and gays make a great party. Gay guys can make any outfit drool worthy hot and the lesbien girls can approve. You just gotta make a system that every one can appeal to.

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